Do you get frustrated with relatives and old friends?
Solution: Find new people.
And let go of the old ones. They will never change. Otherwise you will just be killing loneliness with toxic vampires who you grew up with.
The passive aggressive kind are the worst. You have to walk on eggshells to avoid conflict in fear that they will cut you loose. You will get lost in the heat of an emotional storm and make bad decisions. That is not a healthy way to live. You are co-dependent. And they probably are too.
Good friends have deep conversations. They care about truth, love, happiness, wealth, beauty and freedom. Not just say they care but live like they care. They are not distracted by trivial shit and unwilling to take anything seriously. They don’t hide behind sarcarsm.
Take responsibility for your own feelings. Don’t blame anyone else. If you let toxic people into your life, be prepared to pay the price. You will suffer. Guaranteed. Feel your feelings. Your feelings are your own. Feel them completely. Don’t be ashamed of the way you feel. Don’t hide your feelings. Stop playing these games.
Let it in
Let it be
Let it go
The 4 core feelings are:
Anger
Sadness
Joy
Fear
If you are like me, you will often feel them ALL at the same time. Let it flow. Enjoy it. You are alive. Existence is a miracle. Channel it. Write. Paint. Dance. Fuck. Draw. Sing. Run. Make videos. Use this energy. Harness it. Or just close your eyes, be still and meditate and observe it. Where is it? Where is it going?
Bring consciousness to your relationships. Your work. Your actions. Your thoughts.
Conscious friendship
Conscious community
Conscious eating
Conscious creativity
Let people be who they are. If they are adults, they are responsible for their own problems. You can help them if they ask but never force it. You are not their caretakers or life coaches or therapists. If they want to heal and grow they will do the work required. You can guide them to books, courses, videos, people or offer a deep conversation invitation without tiktok, google and smartphones.
Focused deep talking/listening for 2 hours to solve problems, identify issues, build dreams and if nothing else, just bring some calm and presence to a chaotic life. If they want more then it becomes coaching. That is a service you can provide for others. Something they will pay for because nothing is more valuable than this. If they cannot see this value, move on. Working with people from your old life is risky… The first conversation is friendship. Free. After that it is probably wise that they find someone else. You can still share the journey of growth.
If you force-rescue they will get mad and persecute you. Now you become the victim and you persecute them. This is known as war. If people are the same and just complain year after year and do nothing, let them go. Move on. I know it can be hard and painful but you must do this or you will drive yourself insane and just make things worse.
Create your dream life. Let them see what is possible. Let them reach out and ask for help. They might never do that. That’s okay. Trust the gods. Work with people who want what you want. And build relationships with those that say what they mean and mean what they say. No exceptions. Ever.
If you feel stuck in life or where you live, acknowledge it. Good to know. Start working towards creating a new life somewhere else. Master the basics: health, wealth, happiness. Don’t just run away. Sort things out and when you are free financially, you can do what you want, go where you want. You are not stuck. You chose this. Stuck is a false paradigm and is never true unless you are actually in a jail cell.
YOU ARE FREE.
Part of conscious friendship is that people are open to explore new ways and possibilities. And not just talk and complain or dream and want. And we each must do the deep work required and that intention is everything. This can be extremely difficult work because people are in so much pain. I think it’s fun. I love it. And I love reading about it. Studying it. Writing about it. Dedicating my life to it. It’s an honest way to live.
But remember:
We can only help those who truly want help and are willing to change.
Shift your life towards this kind of growth oriented open heart/mind model of living. Nothing is more important than this. Everything you do and everyone you know can become part of it. So figure out how you can be of service to others who are like this and want to live a great life and take full responsibility.
For me, music (and art in general) is so powerful because i think in many ways my songs (especially new ones) are a document of this evolution. Well old ones too, I was just not so aware of it at the time. In fact, I have always felt those older songs of mine were way ahead of me and some kind of channelled higher voice. I wrote lyrics when I had nobody else to talk to and about things I didn’t even know how to say or how to feel. So poetry and music saved me. And still does.
In the future i want to integrate art/music into some form of coaching or courses to help other artists. And inspire them. This is a big challenge but fun. Like inner extreme sports. I see this brokenness and sickness in most celebrity culture too and the whole social media thing. It is everywhere.
This work + detoxing body, colon, etc is the healing of humanity. Physical healing is just part of it, also need emotional/psychological + of course spiritual.
All 3 necessary.